By Mark Samuel
We are often expected to live dual lives — one at home and one at work. But this is ludicrous, if not harmful. Compartmentalizing our personal selves with our work selves is possible, but it’s not optimal. We must think of ourselves as whole beings and incorporate our full selves into our work. This includes our growth and personal development.
There are many ways in which personal development can support professional development, but here I am highlighting four that are particularly striking.
The human experience varies in many ways, but it’s universal as well. When we learn about ourselves, we also learn about our leaders, our employees and our customers. Our growing compassion invariably helps us serve those we interact with in business much better, therefore serving our business outcomes, values, culture and, ultimately, our bottom line.
We can all get reactive at times of overwhelm or emotional upset. This is normal, but usually not helpful. When we react, we often blame the outside triggering circumstance. But we have no leverage there because we can’t control external events.
What we can control is our own reactivity. We might not be able to prevent it, but we can notice it, take a breath and find our center before responding. When we can decrease our own reactivity, we can also help de-escalate the reactivity of our co-workers and direct reports, creating a more pleasant and outcome-focused environment for everyone.
Greater Clarity, Direction, and Sense of Our Own Values
How often do we get into jobs, moving up the corporate ladder, only to find that we’re not exactly sure why or where we’re going? We are all extremely conditioned — by our parents, our peers and society — to strive for certain types of success and accomplishment and to hold certain values. But are these successes, accomplishments, and values really ours to strive for?
Personal development can help us become clear about what is really important to us and this can inform how we conduct business interpersonally, how we decide on business goals and priorities and how we move forward as an organization and culture.
Personal Leadership Leads to Organizational Leadership
We are not just employees. We are parents, spouses, partners, and community members, and we always have the opportunity to be leaders in these areas. Leadership includes the skills of planning, getting organized, inclusive communication, and the courage to take action when necessary. Leadership also includes the ability to compromise, resolve conflict in a healthy manner and foster an environment of trust and support. Finally, personal leadership requires the generosity of spirit to be of service to others, acknowledge others and express gratitude for the bounty of good fortune that we experience each and every day.
These are all of the same skills required on the job whether we are managers or individual contributors leading our career, our teamwork, our support of others in our organization or others who support our success. Leadership is not a professional or personal skill; it’s an attribute of living a fulfilling life regardless of our situation or circumstance.
While you might be tempted to let personal development take a backseat or to ignore it altogether, I have found that those who embrace personal development as fervently as they embrace professional development find more success, greater fulfillment and a deeper sense of purpose in their careers and their lives.